So today I had a very special session with a client. We reached deep internal safe space, deep feeling of easefulness
He said he doesn’t remember feeling like that probably ever. It’s so new but very pleasant, peaceful, tender and relaxing. It brought some tears since safety was a very old longing…
And then I asked him: “Can you imagine creating your work from this place?”
That question itself brought to surface another layer of coping strategies and defences. In our society, the construct of work, business, career and the construct of ease, safety, peacefulness doesn’t often come together.
People often work and create not only their business but all their life from unregulated nervous system and trauma response. And often they even don’t know it because that’s how they functioned many years, it became familiar state of being, it’s what they know…
And in the meanwhile, this trauma response becomes the part of identity.
But maybe you are not workaholic and that super busy person trying to build perfect life and perfect self? Maybe you are just hiding under flight response to regulate yourself and to avoid feeling what needs to be felt or being with your pain?
Maybe you are not overachiever or being a strong person who has a warrior spirit constantly, maybe it is just functioning from a fight response because you actually don’t feel safe to be vulnerable and relaxed?
Maybe you are not lazy, procrastinating “couch potato” and maybe that judgement is not needed for not being able to move into action and to get anything done? Maybe your body is just overwhelmed and triggered into the nervous system’s freeze response?
Maybe your mission to help people, putting other people needs first on the cost of draining yourself is not who you actually are? Maybe you are just not aware you are functioning from a chronic fawning response?
People often work and create not only their business but all their life from unregulated nervous system and trauma response. And often they even don’t know it because that’s how they functioned many years, it became familiar state of being, it’s what they know…
And in the meanwhile, this trauma response becomes the part of their identity.
